Every week, I share a story from ordinary life that made me stop, laugh, think, or occasionally question what on earth I was doing. From running into spider webs and taking the elevator after the gym, to entrepreneurship, choices, courage and figuring out what we actually want next. No five-step formulas, no pretending I have it all figured out. Just real stories, honest observations and the occasional question that might stay with you longer than expected.
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Hi Reader, A friend of mine shared something recently that's been rattling around in my head ever since, and yes, I asked permission to share 😉 Something she'd been working on hadn't gone the way she'd hoped. She was disappointed. Really disappointed. When she got home that evening, her father asked if she was ready to listen. And when she nodded, he said: "You know how to do the work. Now you need to learn how to get the work done." Let that sit with you for a moment. Because oh my, doesn't that land? 😅 To be honest, it happens to all of us. We have the picture-perfect version in our mind. How the conversation will go. How the task will flow. How the list will be neatly crossed off by the end of the day. And then… life happens. We beat ourselves up for it. Thoughts go through our mind, and the main character of those inner conversations? SHOULD. I should have... (fill in the blank), and suddenly we're questioning ourselves. Our capabilities. Whether we're even cut out for this at all. So the real question isn't: can you do the work? The real question is: how do you get the work done? And this is where I have to check in with myself often. Because how we respond in that moment matters far more than the mismatch itself. What lessons did I learn from it? None of those are failures. They're recalibrations. Because here's what I've learned. When the picture doesn't match the reality, it's usually not about your ability. It's about the things around it. Timing. Support. Systems. Small assumptions we didn't even know we were making. And that's actually good news. Because as long as we're making progress toward learning from the mistake, the misjudgement of time, or whatever was at the source of it, not going the way we imagined… That's a WIN! Chat next week, P.S. Where in your life have you been focused on being able to do the work… but forgotten to learn how to actually get it done? Backyard Gossip | Stories about life, business & the spaces in between |
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Every week, I share a story from ordinary life that made me stop, laugh, think, or occasionally question what on earth I was doing. From running into spider webs and taking the elevator after the gym, to entrepreneurship, choices, courage and figuring out what we actually want next. No five-step formulas, no pretending I have it all figured out. Just real stories, honest observations and the occasional question that might stay with you longer than expected.
View in browser Hi Reader, Well, the last Backyard Gossip was about the difference between “I should,” “I want to,” “I am going to,” and eventually being able to say… I DID it. Apparently, I should take my own writing a little more seriously because there is something rather significant I’ve been meaning to share for a while now. I finished my MBA! 🎓 I’ve actually had about four opportunities to tell you this. When I found out I’d made the Dean’s Honour List. When my final grades came in....
View in browser Hi Reader, Last week I left you with a slightly annoying question: if we know what we want, why is it sometimes still so difficult to make the choices that will get us there? Well, apparently I have some thoughts about that 😏 You might not know this, unless you’ve done some serious scrolling through my LinkedIn profile, but I’ve been working with NHA in the Netherlands for almost 17 years, guiding students through self-paced courses on leadership, coaching and business. One of...
View in browser Hi Reader, I’m not going to lie… I’m NOT always motivated to do the things I need to do to become the person I want to be. Wow. That was a mouthful. I’m pretty sure I couldn’t say that five times quickly in a row 😂 But then I started wondering: am I actually motivated by the person I want to become? Or am I sometimes more motivated by the person I don’t want to become? And yes, I’m sure a psychologist could explain the difference in great detail. Intrinsic motivation,...